Posted on December 26, 2018 by adminNot Self-Esteem? Self-esteem is the way we evaluate ourselves; it is the way we perceive our worth in the world and just how much importance we think we have for others. Self-esteem influences our trust in others, in our relationships, and work; practically in nearly every side of our life. Favorable self-esteem gives us the flexibility and strength to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes, without the fear of rejection. Here are some outward signs of positive self-esteem. Trust, clarity of direction, non-blaming behaviour, awareness of personal strengths, the ability to make mistakes and learn from these, the ability to accept the mistakes of others, optimism, the ability to solve problems, an independent and cooperative attitude, feeling comfortable with a wide range of emotions, the ability to trust others, a good sense of personal limits, good self-care, the ability to say no What is low self-esteem? Low self-esteem is a debilitating condition that prevents us from realizing our full potential. People with low self-esteem feel unworthy, incapable and incompetent and since they’re so ill with themselves, the majority of the time enter a downward circuit that feeds negativity to feed on it, to the point of forgetting that one can also live well. Below are some signs of low self-esteem. A negative vision of life, a perfectionist mindset, be cautious of others even people who show signs of affection, blaming behaviour, fear of taking risks, feeling of not being loved and lovable, addiction, letting others make decisions, fear of being ridiculed. How to increase low self-esteem? Feelings of non self-esteem often collect in the course of a person’s life and forego such deep-rooted crystallization is a tricky task that requires time, effort, and even professional aid. There are, however, before getting to the last step, some simple, positive thinking techniques that can be used to help enhance one’s own self-esteem. These are called affirmations and are utilised to stop negative internal dialogue in a simple and constructive way. The statements work best when we are in a relaxed state, but because when we give negative messages we’re often in agitation, it is necessary to immediately counteract them with positive ones, where we are and whatever we’re doing. By way of example, replace the message: I made a stupid mistake and I am bad at this job or game, with, OK, I made a mistake, but I learned from it and now I can do a much better job or play. We begin each day looking in the mirror and giving us a positive message. The following statements help us to work towards a positive picture of us: I respect myself and respect others, I am a lovable and nice person, I trust and it shows, I’m counting on me, I make loving and wholesome relationships, I’m a wonderful person to have as a friend, I accept myself as I am, I believe big, I love myself, life is amazing and I enjoy being a part of it. It is enough merely to believe in it, maintain the positive intent and radiate it. It is simple and even if we fall back into the old habit every now and then, it’s enough to leave it from time to time faster, until it becomes a distant memory which we no longer remember that once belonged to us and we are happy. It’s not just simple, it’s evident, and the obvious, we know, is unbeatable.